I got married 2 months ago and my parents and siblings gifted me a beautiful car as a wedding present. My husband does not have a car and this was my parents way of trying to make life easier for us by giving us a car to help with transportation, they didn’t want me to be legging it under the sun especially if I become pregnant, they don’t know when my husband will buy a car so they decided to help out by gifting me one for mr wedding. I learnt how to drive just before my wedding, my hand is not yet very strong on the steering but with more regular practice I know that I will be perfect.
The thing bothering me is that my husband first picked offence that why did my parents put the car only in my name. That they should have put the car in both our names since we are getting married. I told him that they said that as at the time they bought the car, which was just before the wedding we were not yet married so they had no reason to put his name since we were not yet married then. They were giving their daughter a car as her wedding present but their intention was for us to use the car together after marriage.
He then started driving the car without giving me a chance to drive it too so that my driving will perfect. He has been the one driving that car nearly 100%, I haven’t driven it more than 3 times since we wedded 2 months ago. Most times he drives off to work without dropping me and I have to use public transport to go to work and other places while he drives the car everywhere he goes. I only enter the car mostly as a passenger if we are going to the same place like church or to visit people.
I have tried to reason with him and he said I can’t be driving a car while my husband has no car. I told him we have to find a way to drive the car together till he saves enough money to buy another car. He can drive the car 4 days a week and I will drive it 3 days a week and then the next week we swap and I drive it 4 days a week and him 3 days a week. He still refused. That his work is more stressful than mine that I have to be patient until we can get a new car.
Pls what do I do? How do I make him see reason with me? My family that bought the car for me are not happy at all seeing me still jumping public transport while they bought me a car with their hard earned money.
QUESTION
Pls what do I do? How do I make him see reason with me? My family that bought the car for me are not happy at all seeing me still jumping public transport while they bought me a car with their hard earned money.
– Matters Arising In Marriage
ANSWERS
Very simple. Collect the car from him and return to your parents’ house. Just pick one between the car and the new home
– The Passionate Teacher
Very simple. Collect the car from him and return to your parents’ house. Just pick one between the car and the new home
– The Passionate Teacher
