Recently, (THE ‘PERFECT’ COUPLE) I was invited to minister at a couples program with the above theme. Obviously, there is no perfect couple. However on a closer look, I remembered that Jesus told his disciples in Matthew 5:48:
“Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect”.
Consequently, it dawned on me that though your marriag may not be perfect, but if you are a believer you must strive towards perfection in all that you do, including your marital relationship.
Our operational definition of a perfect couple then is a union in which partners know that neither of them is perfect;
consequently, each partner does everything possible to accept the mate’s imperfections and go to any length to complement each other.
EVIDENCE OF STRIVING TOWARDS PERFECTION. There are seven areas where the acceptance of each other must reflect to show that we are striving towards perfection in our marital union;
• Demonstrating love ❤️ to one another. Words, messages, meaningful touches, helping one another, remembering important dates, not denying each other of things, readiness to sacrifice
• Forgiving one another- Someone while talking about marriage described it as the headquarters of offenses. If you are going to keep your home therefore, you must possess the ability to forgive the numerous offences of your spouse.
• Believing in each other’s vision- God, when He was going to create Eve in Genesis 2:18 said; “…It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him”. The primary purpose of marriage is therefore to be a help for one another in our companionship. With you in your spouse’s life, his or her vision must have found help. To be a help, you must believe in your spouse’s vision.
• Acceptance during difficult times- If anyone has ever told you that there will be no challenges in your marriage, that person was not sincere with you. Nobody prays for it, but there are difficult times in marriage. In a perfect marriage in the making, partners must be ready to accept one another in difficult times.
• Taking first steps towards reconciliation- A lot of homes have broken down because neither of the partners was ready to take the first step towards reconciliation. For your marriage to be moving towards perfection, you need to be ready to make the first move towards reconciliation whenever there are offenses.
• Building trust when it has been eroded- Your spouse may do something that will make you to lose trust completely in him or her. However, in a marriage that is working towards perfection, you must rebuild trust, even when it has been lost.
• Serving God together- The most important one is to believe and serve God together. If God is the author of marriage, He has clues to every problem that may emerge in your home. Apart from that, when you are walking with God, it makes you to develop some attributes that will minimize conflict at home.
CONCLUSION.
Though there is not really a perfect couple,as believers we must strive towards perfection even in our relationship by accepting each others imperfections. This is because Jesus expect it to be so. If you are striving towards perfection in relationship with your spouse, take note of the above and work towards making them evident in your marriage.
Dr. Mike Oluniyi
