Dr. Mike Oluniyi. – CLEAVING TO YOUR SPOUSE.
...and shall cleave unto his wife; and they shall be one flesh. (Gen. 2:24b)
Cleaving together means closeness between you and your spouse. Cleaving requires you to remove all obstacles that may prevent you from becoming very close to your spouse. Such obstacles may include human beings, beliefs, practices etc. Nothing, (including your children) should come between you and your spouse. The closer you are, the better for your relationship.
Newlyweds usually, due to the excitement of the new world of the marital union, find it easy to cleave. During such times, they are hardly seen separately; they do things in common and there is high level of intimacy. However, it appears as if the older the union is, especially as children arrive, the higher the tendency for attention to shift from your spouse to your children and other matters.
We must never forget that the plan of God for marriage is that we should be together. Any job that will separate you from your spouse for a considerable period of time should be given a second thought because the havoc it causes in the home is much more than the apparent gain. Any habit or practice that also affects the closeness between husband and wife must be at least minimized for cleaving to take place.
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If you fail to cleave now, a time will come when only two of you will be left and by that time, it will be too late to close the gap, leading to loneliness during old age.
For you to be able to cleave to your spouse, the obstacle which you have to do away with may be unique to you and your home but the most important thing is that it must be addressed. One of the practices which will encourage closeness between you and your spouse is doing things in common. Sleeping, bathing, eating, going out together, all contribute to making you to become one. The more you do things together, the more dependent you will be on each other and consequently, the greater the cleaving.
Access the relationship between you and your spouse today and ask yourself whether you are really cleaving together. If not, do everything you can, to ensure your cleaving. If you don’t, your old age is very likely to be a lonely one.
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