For who makes you differ from another? And what do you have that you did not receive? Now if you did indeed receive it, why do you boast as if you had not received it? (1Cor.4:7)
Anyone who is determined to keep his or her home must be ready to put his partner first before considering his own convenience. On many occasions, you may have to sacrifice something that is dear to you just for you to keep your home. Some of the areas in which you may likely be required to sacrifice are considered below:
Pleasure.
You may discover that what gives you pleasure may be detestable to your spouse, and if you keep on indulging in it, you may be putting a wedge in the crack in the wall of your home making the crack wider with time. As a husband, you may need to suspend buying your dream car for a greater need in the home.
Time.
Many men are so busy that they can’t afford to spend time with their family. Agreed, there are some professions demanding so much time from people. If you are really committed to your home, there must be a way of doing it just to be able to sacrifice some time for your family and find it a pleasure to be with them. Some men are so used to spending time away from home that even during their annual leave, when they are supposed to make it up for the family, they will still rather be with their friends.
Every unit of time you spend with your spouse is a wise investment.
Relationships.
It may be the relationship between you and a friend that you have to sacrifice if it is competing with peace in your marriage. If your spouse is not comfortable with a particular friend of yours, you may need to pause and reconsider your friendship with that person, as there must be a reason why he/she is not comfortable with your friend. If you allow your home to break because of a friend, you will realize to your regrets later that the place of your spouse cannot be filled by your friend.
Resources.
You may be required to sacrifice a considerable amount of money or other resources towards assisting your spouse to achieve a goal which will eventually be beneficial to the family. There are women for instance who will not think of assisting their husband while he is putting up the building which will eventually be used by the family. The mistake such women make is that they will not have record of any contribution towards the building of that home in future.
If you love your home, you must be ready to sacrifice anything for it, because it will definitely be less expensive than losing the home.
REASONS WHY MANY FIND IT DIFFICULT TO SACRIFICE FOR THEIR HOMES.
Many of us find it extremely difficult to sacrifice relationships, resources, time and pleasure to keep our homes because of several reasons, some of them are:
Lack Of Trust.
For many, they have been disappointed by their spouse in the past, so they find it difficult to sacrifice anything for the spouse. If you have been disappointed in the past and your spouse has apologized, why don’t you forgive and build up trust again? The journey of marriage is so long that you can’t afford to go on with lack of trust, you simply won’t enjoy it.
Insecurity.
Often, the reason why many can’t sacrifice is insecurity. Maybe the spouse of a friend of yours treated your friend badly or maybe all your husband’s siblings have an uncomfortable trend in their family and you are now having the feeling that your own spouse may also do the same thing. The fact that someone else’s spouse did something bad does not mean your own spouse will do the same thing. If the two of you believe in the efficacy of prayer, a trend that has been playing out in the family for generations can stop with your own spouse.
Ignorance.
Often, many ignorantly fail to put things in proper perspective, and thus fail to establish the fact that their home take precedence over any other consideration. When you are ignorant of this fact, it prevents you from making the necessary sacrifices to keep your home.
Lack Of Commitment.
When you are not committed to your home as a result of alternative attraction, you may find it difficult to sacrifice anything to keep your home. In fact, many that are in illicit relationship, apart from inability to sacrifice, won’t even mind if their home collapses. It is often after it happens that they discover their folly.
Wrong Counsel.
Behind the ruins or the breakdown of many homes is the wrong counsel received from friends. When a friend is advising you against doing something that can keep your home going, you need to evaluate such counsel before implementing it.
Conclusion.
Except when your spouse has been unrepentantly and evidently unfaithful to his or her marital vows, there are at least three reasons why you must be ready to sacrifice:
1. You don’t really own anything separately; all you have are jointly owned by the two of you.
2. If you hold on to it while your home suffers, you are not faithful to your marital vows.
3. If you fail to sacrifice that thing and your home breaks down, what you are holding on to will not give you fulfillment.
If you love your home, you must be ready to sacrifice anything for it; that will definitely be less expensive than losing your home.
Dr. Mike Oluniyi.
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The sacrifices we make are not burdens but investments in the well-being and happiness of our family. It’s a shared responsibility that strengthens our bond and reinforces the importance of creating a loving and supportive home for everyone under its roof.