And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed. (Gen.2:25)
A talking family may be viewed as a family where members are free to ask questions and open up to one another and discuss issues that are bothering them. When yours is a talking family, your spouse and children will be free to ask you questions and share opinions without the fear of repercussions. There are about four major requirements for raising a talking family are AVAILABILITY, TRUST, HUMILITY and the ability to LISTEN.
When your family members are not talking, they are either bottling up or are asking others outside. The two situation are potentially dangerous for the future of your family.
DANGERS OF BOTTLING UP.
Your Family May Open Up To Wrong Persons.
When your family members are bottling up, it may make them to open up to the wrong persons, which may be potentially dangerous to the future of your family. There are a lot of families that are suffered great today the consequences of parents who were too busy to to attend to their children at crucial phases of their development. There are also those who are reeling under the effect of wives who sought counsel from the wrong person when the husband was not available.
It May Lead To Unwarranted Outbursts of Anger When Least Expected.
Bottling up at home could lead to unwarranted outbursts of anger when frustration fully set in. Little things that could have been settled earlier would pile up and become big matters that can tear the home apart.
It May Lead To Emotional Affairs/ Alternative Attraction.
A lot of women have fallen into emotional affairs as a result of seeking counsel from men outside their matrimonial homes instead of their husbands, ostensibly as a result of their husbands being unapproachable to them. Many have fallen into adultery as such affairs gradually led to unintended ends.
It May Create Wall of Separation Between You and Your Spouse.
Not being able to talk to one another has the danger of preventing you and your spouse from bonding together as a couple. Inability to bond has grave implications during old age, when you will need each other most.
TWELE THINGS TO DO IF YOU DESIRE A TALKING FAMILY.
• BE DESIROUS OF RAISING A TALKING FAMILY.
• BE AVAILABLE FOR YOUR FAMILY.
• DEVELOP LISTENING SKILLS.
• BE NAKED TO ONE ANOTHER.
• BE HUMBLE
• DONT BE TOO SENSITIVE OR SUSPICIOUS
• DONT BE TOO DEFENSIVE. WHAT ARE YOU HIDING?
• ASK QUESTIONS AND RESPOND TO THE ONES YOU ARE ASKED.
• EARN THE TRUST OF YOUR FAMILY MEMBERS BY BEING A PERSON OF INTEGRITY.
• DONT ALLOW YOUR SPOUSE AS HE /SHE ASKS YOU QUESTIONS TO LOOK STUPID EVEN IF IT IS A STUPID QUESTION.
• DONT BE TOO HARD TO RELATE WITH.
• HAVE A COMMON GROUND OF STUDYING AND DISCUSSING SCRIPTURES WITH YOUR FAMILY MEMBERS DURING WHICH EVERYONE HAS OPPORTUNITY TO EXPRESS HIMSELF/ HERSELF.
CONCLUSION.
A talking family is desirable for every home, but it requires deliberate efforts to achieve. It requires you to always remember that the benefits of opening up to one another and taking the lead in encouraging family members to speak up. It also requires you to be receptive to the questions and views of your family members.
Dr. Mike Oluniyi.
“Raising a Talking Family” encapsulates the essence of fostering open communication within the family unit, laying the groundwork for strong relationships and a supportive environment. This insightful piece delves into the transformative power of dialogue, highlighting its role in nurturing understanding, empathy, and connection among family members.
Its like women and men don’t seem to be involved unless it’s something to accomplish with Woman gaga! Your own stuffs outstanding. Always care for it up!
Thanks for your beautiful comments. It is such an important issue in marriage. When you create time to discuss, you are reducing the tendency for conflict to degenerate. You will also be providing good example for children being raised in the family.
If one thing I figured out, its that creating a talking family environment fosters strong bonds and encourages open communication, which is essential for healthy family relationships and emotional well-being for both parents and kids.
Yes, I agree with you. We have to remove every inhibition against communicating with one another in our home. Thank you for being part of us.
In a talking family, every member feels valued and heard, paving the way for mutual respect, empathy, and understanding among family members.
Thank you! We must remove any roadblock to better communication in our marriage. Thanks for being part of this community.
I believe that the family should be able to rub minds and share insights. A talking family is a lovely family
Please practice it at home.
Thank you.