WHAT AN ANCHOR IS.
An anchor in a ship, is an equipment that keeps the ship in a particular position by means of a fluke or pointed projection that digs to the sea bottom. Thus holding the ship, preventing it from drifting away from it’s position. Anchors are important instruments in every ship, they are used to stop the ship to from drifting away by a turbulence of the sea. There are several things that may happen to a ship without anchor:
- It may be lost.
- It may sink.
- It may collide with another ship in anchorage.
Every ship needs a strong anchor because a weak one may allow the ship to drift off course and making it to experience any of the situations above.
Just like in a ship, anchor is essential in a marriage. The anchor in a marriage may either be the husband or the wife. The two may also make up their minds to become anchors which makes it more difficult for their marriage to drift. When you are the anchor in your marriage, you will be determined to do all you can, to prevent the ship of your marriage to change the course that you set for yourselves on your wedding day thus;
“I…take you… until death do us part”
The torrent of life that cause drifting in marriages are diverse, but they can often be strong. The torrent may present an alluring woman to your husband at his low moments and make him to forget you and your children at home and start pursuing vanity. If you are an anchor in that marriage, you may go to God, do everything practically possible and win back your husband from drifting away with the tide.
The torrent of life may also make your partner to lose his job so that the burden of sustaining the home falls on you and becomes hardly bearable for you. In many other instances, it may be your mother in-law that may make the marriage so unbearable for you that if you are not committed, you may make your home to hit the rocks. If you are an anchor, you will remember that the drifting in your home may make your home to be lost, destroyed or stolen. The scriptures warn us in John 10:10;
The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy:..
As the anchor, you will always be determined that you don’t want the three fold ministry of the devil to be achieved in your home, even if your spouse is ignorant.
Example Of An Anchor.
I once sat among other ministers of God to settle a marital crisis in which a junior pastor was allegedly involved in extramarital affairs with no other person than the very wife of his senior pastor and general overseer of the ministry in which he was serving. From what the man of God said, it was apparent that the story was true. When the wife of the senior pastor was asked to state her own part of the story, we were expecting her to either deny or attribute the embarrassing misdemeanor to the devil. However, what she said was so unexpected to everyone seated. The woman did not only admit that the junior pastor was sleeping with her, but that the junior pastor was actually the father of the youngest of the three children in their home. The woman was apparently not remorseful of the accusation, but was rather determined to go ahead and marry the young and single pastor! Those of us that were seated looked at ourselves and were dumbfounded. Sincerely, I could not doubt what the woman said because the senior pastor and his wife were tall along with their first two children, but the last born was short just like the junior pastor. I was asked to speak, but I realized that I needed the wisdom of the Holy Spirit to handle the matter, consequently I prayed that the Holy Spirit should help me. Indeed, I received help as the senior pastor himself indicated his intention to talk. He faced, the wife and said:
“My dear, I expected you to apologize but though you did not do so, I forgive you. The devil evidently want to destroy this home, but I will not give him that pleasure. Despite everything you have done and your unwillingness to apologize, I forgive you. As for our girl, she has been my daughter and will remain my daughter”
That was the end of discussion! It happened over a decade ago as at the time of this writing, the family is still together in ministry. One miracle which I noticed and is unable to explain about the family is that the girl that was short then, is no longer short, there is no longer difference between her and the siblings!
An anchor will go to any length to keep his or her home, will sacrifice anything within his power and forgive any offense to keep the home from experiencing the three fold ministry of stealing, killing and destroying which the devil is all about to achieve in any marriage.
The anchor of a ship uses a fluke to dig down towards the floor of the ocean. If you are an anchor to your marriage, commitment to your home becomes the fluke that holds you so firmly to enable you hold your spouse connected to things that matter so that he or she will not be drifted away by the turbulence of the sea of life.
ANOTHER EXAMPLE OF AN ANCHOR.
OKONJO IWEALA AS AN ANCHOR TO HER MARRIAGE.
Dr.Mrs. Ngozi Okonjo Iweala is Nigerian former minister of finance, who rose in international status to become the Director General of the world trade centre. Her husband is a medical doctor that works in an American hospital. At the hospital, the man messed up with a Ghanaian nurse.
The nurse and her boyfriend set up Ngozi’s husband and had his nude pictures with the Ghanaian nurse. They started blackmailing him and were exhorting from him thousands of dollars.
Ngozi became troubled and queried the husband about the unusual withdrawals, in which the husband was giving false excuses.
She did a wonderful thing by employing a private investigator to unravel the mystery. The private investigator came up with his findings, including pictures.
Most women at that point would have turned the house into a battle ground. Ngozi being a woman of great wisdom got her husband seated and told him the game was over. She emboldened her husband and told him they were reporting the case to the police.
The Ghanaian nurse and her boyfriend were jailed for twenty years! After that, she called a press conference and told the press all the stories. At that point, it was no longer a news and no press could make any scandal out of it, the story having been told by the victims themselves.
Source: Nairaland.com
In either of the two stories above, it must have been painful and embarrassing, but each of the spouses that must have been so offended, put their home before their emotions and did what only an anchor would do.
Marital anchor will think first about ensuring that the ship of the marriage does not sink, before thinking either about his or her own pains. Even in an embarrassing situation as the above two cases, the anchors first thought of saving their marriage before thinking about themselves. The pastor definitely did not like the situation in which he found himself, but he first thought of saving his marriage. Dr. Ngozi would definitely not give her husband a pass mark for messing up with the Ghanaian lady, and will definitely make him know it in their private space. If the two of them had decided to act on the impulse to leave their spouse to the mess they had created, the home would have gone.
Dr. Mike Oluniyi.
