Dr. Mike Oluniyi.
And the Lord answered me, and said, Write the vision, and make it plain upon tables, that he may run that readeth it. (Hab.2:2-3)
You can’t actualize your vision alone; you need others to believe and run with the vision. Among the those who will most likely be used by God for your vision to become a reality is your spouse. However it is not automatic for your spouse to run with your vision as a lot depends on whether or not you are taking the necessary steps. In many ministries and other visions today, the greatest headache of the vision err is his spouse who doesn’t seem to care whether or not the vision is actualized.
Following are some of the principles that can help towards making your spouse to believe in and run with your vision.
The Principle Of Vision Sharing.
If you desire your spouse to run with your vision, he/ she must understand what your vision is all about. Does your wife know what God has called you to do? (Hab.2:2-3). The scripture asks you to write it down and make it plain so that whoever that sees it will understand and be able to run with it You
The Principle Of Building According To The Given Pattern.
Building according to pattern is all about doing what God has shown you in the vision you were given (Heb.8:5b). Every diversion from your vision confuses your spouse and makes her to see inconsistency and reduces the trust she has in the vision.
The Principle Of Goal Setting.
Goal-setting is vital for your spouse and others to know what to do next (1Cor.14:8). Your vision is so broad but you need to break it down into time-bound achievable goals. When it is in such state, it motivates everyone involved to achieve success.
The Principle Of Role Appreciation / Fault Blindness.
The principle of role appreciation and fault blindness propagates the appreciation of the contributions of your spouse to the ministry and the refusal to hammer on her faults. Many of us are guilty of condemning whatever our spouse does and emphasizing their faults. We are quick to point to errors but never acknowledge their contribution. When you encourage the contribution of your wife to your vision, it is an encouragement for her to do more.
The principle of acceptance of complementary vision.
This principle talks about accepting and co-owning the vision God has given your spouse. Many pastors are at loggerheads with their wives over the vision that God has given them. The truth is that your wife’s vision is complementary to your own vision, once your accept and encourage the vision, it enlarges your own.
Many ministers of God are at war with their spouse over the vision that God has given their spouse. There are also pastors who feel threatened about the gifts of their spouse.
The principle of spousal counsel and evaluation.
Spousal counsel and evaluation here is about being open enough to allow your spouse to evaluate what the ministry is doing and give a word of advice. When your wife has a say through counseling and evaluation, it gives her the feeling that you are in the ministry together. She might want to go the extra mile to ensure that things work out well for the ministry.
The Principle Of Joint Altar.
The principle of joint altar is such a powerful catalyst for your spouse to run with your vision. Anything you pray about, you will be on the lookout for it to come to pass.
Conclusion.
If you want your spouse to be passionate about your vision, it does not just happen. There is a need to work towards it and even when it is achieved, there is a need to keep paying attention to the above principles as they will make your spouse to believe that she is a significant stakeholder in the ministry.
