'And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and they were not ashamed' (Gen. 2:25)
Nakedness in marriage is about being open to each other, or the deliberate habit of not hiding anything from your spouse. Your spouse should be your greatest confidant, with whom you must cultivate the habit of communicating. Whether as a man or woman, you must cultivate the habit of opening up to your spouse and listening to what he or she has to say, even if what is said initially appear unreasonable. It is a dangerous thing for your marriage that you become so busy that you don’t have time to sit down and share your joy, fear and anxiety with you spouse. Unless in exceptional cases, especially for ministers of God, secrets are not for couples because whatever you tell husband is likely and should be communicated to the spouse. You must in fact make up your mind to ensure that you open up to your spouse in every situation you find yourself. Such a habit reduces tension in your life.
Everyone has some ugly past, and it is better to let your spouse know your own before he or she discovers it. Also, when you commit an error, the best person to confide in is your spouse. He or she may initially be disappointed but under normal circumstances, there are a lot of implications which your spouse will consider but which another person may not think about before exposing you.
Another vital area to be naked about is the area of finance. Often women ask, should we keep joint account with our spouse? Men also often ask whether it is reasonable for you to let your wife know how much you are earning. Except in extreme cases of abuse, the answer to the two questions will be Yes! There’s nothing wrong with your spouse knowing what you are earning, it is even good for you to keep common purse. However, even where it is not possible to keep a common purse, you will save your home a lot of misunderstandings if you can strive to be open to your spouse generally about your finances.
Following are some of the merits of being naked to each other:
Nakedness Reduces Suspicion.
When you are open to one another, the tendency for suspicion is is reduced to the while trust increases. High level of trust in your relationship reduces conflict to the minimum.
Nakedness Aids Joint Planning.
Nakedness to one another in your relationship makes joint planning to be easier. Because you can predict one another, it is easier to plan towards the same goal this makes it easy for you to achieve a lot as a couple. It also has the tendency to reduce wasteful spending.
Reduction Of Anxiety.
Nakedness reduces tension in your life. When you have the details of your spouse, there is less tendency to be anxious concerning the steps he may take at one time or the other.
It Engenders Truthfulness.
When you are naked to your spouse, there less need to tell lies. Many are husbands that become they are covering up some aspects of their lives they tell a lot of lies. When a lie that such person has told the spouse is about been exposed, he looks for a bigger one which will still need a much bigger one later.
Nakedness Encourages Your Spiritual Growth.
Usually, nakedness is a reflection of personal spiritual growth. The deeper your walk with God, the lower the tendency for you to have anything to hide from your spouse.
It Reflects Your Faithfulness To Your Marital Vows.
Nakedness is a reflection of a life of faithfulness to marital vows. The more faithful you are to your marital vows, the less the need for you to hide from your spouse.
Nakedness Makes Joint Spiritual Battles Easy.
Nakedness makes spiritual battles easy for couples to fight as there is less hiding place for the enemy in their lives.
Who may ascend into the hill of the LORD? Or who may stand in His holy place? He who has clean hands and a pure heart, Who has not lifted up his soul to an idol, Nor sworn deceitfully. He shall receive blessing from the LORD, And righteousness from the God of his salvation. (Psa.24:3-5)
A lot of battles in marriage are spiritual battles which are better jointly fought by husband and wife together. Such battles may not be effectively fought if you are not truthful to one another or if there are hiding places in your life. Someone who is going to fight spiritual battle should be someone who can approach God with clean hands.
Conclusion.
One of the best habits that can help your home is to be open to one another. It helps to strengthen the bond in diverse ways as it increases the level of trust between you and your spouse thereby reducing conflicts. It is also an instrument of spiritual warfare which will prove very useful in the life of your marriage.
Dr.Mike Oluniyi.
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