TESTIMONIES.
Dr. Mike Oluniyi
THE PERSPECTIVE THAT CHANGED MY MARRIAGE.
After your ministration at our church, I asked you a question about sex. I explained that I didn’t allow my husband access to me unless I felt like it, and that his feelings didn’t matter to me. I even questioned why he would ask for sex more than once a month. To me, sex was not a necessity—it wasn’t like food.
In your response, you asked me to consider what would happen if my husband were part of another religion, where he could have multiple wives. The congregation agreed that he would likely be entitled to up to four wives. You then pointed out that if I were one of those wives, he could choose which one to ask for sex from.
You made me realize that since my husband is only entitled to me due to religious guidelines, and I was denying him my body, I wasn’t seeing things properly. You suggested that perhaps I was unknowingly punishing him for being a faithful husband and advised me not to go too far down that path.
That conversation changed my perspective on my marriage. I began to see my husband’s sexual requests as completely normal, since I am his only wife. Surprisingly, I now view it not as a duty but as something I should enjoy. I’ve come to realize how much I genuinely enjoy being intimate with him.
A lot has changed in our home—he’s more affectionate and friendly, and conflicts are down to a minimum. When issues arise, we now settle them quickly and easily.
Thank you, sir, for helping me see things from a different perspective. It has made my home more blissful than I ever thought possible.
Mrs. E.O.
