The source of frequent conflict in many homes is sexual denial. For a good percentage of wives, the only weapon to activate once your spouse offends you is to deny him of sex. There are also a good number of men that are denying their wives sex at home as a result of having satisfied themselves outside in adulterous relationships.
Sexual denial does not do your home any good as the frustrations of your partner may eventually lead to the breakdown of your relationship or lead to lack of fulfillment in the union.
Following are some of the problems you are creating when you deny your partner of sex;
You Break Your Marital Vows.
In your marital vows, you pledged your body to your spouse. Every act of sexual denial whether as a punishment or as a result of extramarital satisfaction is a violation of your sexual vows, and against the purpose of marriage.
Reduction of Fulfillment.
When for any reason you deny your spouse of sex, you are reducing the pleasure you are supposed to mutually experience in your marriage, thereby reducing the fulfillment.
Exposure to Temptation.
Sex denial exposes your spouse to temptation. However self disciplined your spouse is, sexual denial makes his or her chances of falling into the temptation of adultery.
You Reduce Bonding.
The deep pleasure experienced by both partners during sexual intercourse goes a long way to contribute to bonding together as a couple. When you often frustrate your spouse by denying him of the pleasure, the feeling of being together as one is replaced with contentions and bottling up which often jeopardize the fulfillment that you would have experienced together during old age.
Anger and Aggression.
A man that is denied of sex is unhappy and often aggressive. A lot of aggression that is displayed by men in homes could be traced to lack of sexual satisfaction with their spouses. When a woman is not sexually fulfilled in marriage, she is able to control herself more than an average man. He is likely to overreact to uncomfortable situations at home when denied of sex.
Sowing Instability Into Your Home.
Since prolonged sexual denial does not contribute to, but rather works against fulfillment in marriage, it sows instability into to the home. A good percentage of conflict in marriages can be traced to lack of sexual fulfillment, so it is a major cause of instability in marriages. People don’t usually open up when sex is the problem at home, but often by the time they open up, a lot of damages might have been done to the relationship.
You Act Against The Scriptures.
For good reasons, God our creator wired us in a way which makes us to have chemistry for one another. Except outside marriage, God created sex not only for procreation but also for pleasure. Apostle Paul says:
‘Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.'(1Cor. 7:5)
In fact, the word defraud makes it fraudulent for you to deny your spouse of sex, except when it is mutually agreed that you should abstain from it.
Conclusion.
Sexual fulfillment is one of the factors that help to sustain and make marriage pleasurable. When sexual denial is constant or prolonged, it is like opening up door to the thief who may come in and steal everything that could have made you to be fulfilled in your marriage.
Don’t deny your spouse of sex!
Dr. Mike Oluniyi.
