MAIM NEWSLETTERS.
Monday 3rd February 2025.
Dear reader,
WHAT IS THE VALUE OF YOUR HOME?
A reflection on frequent breakdown of marriages around makes one to conclude that it is because we don’t place the right value on our marital relationships. One of the things that happen when you value something is that you don’t want to let it go.
It follows that if you are asking for divorse or you are thinking of separation, you don’t really value your marital relationship any longer. I used ‘any longer’ because I am certain that it was not that way in the beginning.
If you place high value on the relationship at the beginning but don’t any longer, it means something happened along the way.
Maybe;
- unmet expectations.
- dissapointments.
- alternative attractions.
- unforgiven offenses.
- you have forgotten the meaning of your marital vows.
- you have forgotten the roles you played in each others life in the past.
- you have been listening to negative comments about your spouse from others.
- you’ve been moving with questionable characters.
Any of the above may reduce the value you place on your spouse or home. However, your marriage is so important that no other relationship has the potential of making the same impact on your life and that of the members of your family. The impact that your partner will have on your life is so profound that you can’t completely erase yourselves from each others lives even if you divorce. You will still have reason to think about, refer to or have something to do with one another, especially when children are involved.
Oftentimes, we have the feeling that once it is not working, we may dump our spouse. Of course, you may do so but don’t forget that was not your intention when going into marriage. Divorce rate is rising all over the world, but your own does not need to be part of the terrible statistics. If you value your home, you will as much as possible fight to keep that home.
For instance, if the problem is any of the above, there is likely to be something you can do to keep that home. It may require you to humble yourself and apologize to your spouse even when you are convinced that you were right. You might have forgotten that if you desire to keep your home, you may need to apologize even when you are right.
In your own case, you may need to forgive your spouse a grievous offence. I always tell people that however serious the offence of your spouse is, someone’s spouse not far from your house has done something worse.
In the case of unmet expectations, you may not know that no one has ever got a perfect spouse. It may surprise you that your spouse might have actually been thinking about some areas in your life that did not meet her expectations in a spouse.
If you also don’t value your spouse again because of alternative attraction, always remember that whenever there is an alternative attraction, your spouse becomes less attractive. All you need to do to save that marriage may be doing away with the alternative attraction.
For every of the likely causes above, there may still be something you can do to keep that home. Please do so if it is within your power to do so.
Finally, what you need to do might be for you to invest more time and resources into that relationship, so as to add value to your home.
May you have the grace to sacrifice whatever you need to sacrifice to add value to your home towards the sustaining you home in Jesus name.
Yours In Strengthening Homes
Dr. Mike Oluniyi.
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One of the things that happen when you value something is that you don’t want to let it go.
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I always tell people that however serious the offence of your spouse is, someone’s spouse not far from your house has done something worse.
